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Feel lost after a hard talk?

Write one step you can choose today. This free board works for a couple, or for one spouse alone.

  • 3 short boxes
  • Works if you are alone
  • About 10 minutes

Your After Hard Talks boardFree

Just one thing. Example: after we argue, we stop talking for days.
Only what is in your hands. Not what your spouse should do.
One small step for today or this week. Example: pray 2 minutes before we talk.

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  1. Write the one thing that hurts
  2. Write what you can choose
  3. Pick one next step

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Prayer start

Feel stuck when you try to pray about it? Use your own plain words.

Pick one focus. Say it to God in one or two lines. That is enough for today.

If you are on your own

Feel alone because your spouse will not join? You can still pray and act on your own.

Your step is yours. Pray together only if you both want to.

Passage card

Feel unsure which verse to read? Start here.

Read Ephesians 4:2–3 in your own Bible. Read the lines around it too. Then write: what does this ask of me?

One-line journal

Feel like nothing is moving? Write two short lines each day.

What I asked God for:

What I did:

Questions to ask any helper

Feel unsure when you look for help? Ask these first, of anyone.

  • Who leads the sessions?
  • What do I get?
  • What does it cost?
  • What is free?
  • What is coaching, and what is not?

Compare board

Feel lost comparing options? Write them side by side.

HelperWhat I getCostWho leads
EXAMPLE ONLY · NOT A REAL COUPLE

A filled board

What I want help with
After we argue, we stop talking for days.
What I can choose
I can be the first to say, “Can we try again tonight?”
My next act
Pray 2 minutes for a calm heart before we talk.

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Not ready for a call? Keep the board. It is yours, free.

After a hard talk, the quiet can feel even louder.

You replay it all night.

The words keep looping. You want to fix it, but you are not sure where to start.

Your spouse may not be ready.

You want help, but you can only change what is in your own hands. That can feel lonely.

The board keeps it small. One concern. What you can choose. One next step. We do not promise a spouse will change. We help you take your own step.

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